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A mother
holds her
children's hands for
a little while.
Their hearts forever.
~Unknown~

Contrary to popular belief,
Mother's Day was not conceived and fine-tuned in the boardroom of
Hallmark. The earliest tributes to mothers date back to the annual spring
festival the Greeks dedicated to Rhea, the mother of many deities, and to
the offerings ancient Romans made to their Great Mother of Gods, Cybele.
Christians celebrated this festival on the fourth Sunday in Lent in honor
of Mary, mother of Christ. In England this holiday was expanded to include
all mothers and was called Mothering Sunday.
In the United States, Mother's
Day started nearly 150 years ago, when Anna Jarvis, an Appalachian
homemaker, organized a day to raise awareness of poor health conditions in
her community, a cause she believed would be best advocated by mothers.
She called it "Mother's Work Day."
Fifteen years later, Julia Ward
Howe, a Boston poet, pacifist, suffragist, and author of the lyrics to the
"Battle Hymn of the Republic," organized a day encouraging mothers to
rally for peace, since she believed they bore the loss of human life more
harshly than anyone else.
In 1905 when Anna Jarvis died,
her daughter, also named Anna, began a campaign to memorialize the life
work of her mother. Legend has it that young Anna remembered a Sunday
school lesson that her mother gave in which she said, "I hope and pray
that someone, sometime, will found a memorial mother's day. There are many
days for men, but none for mothers."
Anna began to lobby prominent
businessmen like John Wannamaker, and politicians including Presidents
Taft and Roosevelt to support her campaign to create a special day to
honor mothers. At one of the first services organized to celebrate Anna's
mother in 1908, at her church in West Virginia, Anna handed out her
mother's favorite flower, the white carnation. Five years later, the House
of Representatives adopted a resolution calling for officials of the
federal government to wear white carnations on Mother's Day. In 1914
Anna's hard work paid off when Woodrow Wilson signed a bill recognizing
Mother's Day as a national holiday.
At first, people observed
Mother's Day by attending church, writing letters to their mothers, and
eventually, by sending cards, presents, and flowers. With the increasing
gift-giving activity associated with Mother's Day, Anna Jarvis became
enraged. She believed that the day's sentiment was being sacrificed at the
expense of greed and profit. In 1923 she filed a lawsuit to stop a
Mother's Day festival, and was even arrested for disturbing the peace at a
convention selling carnations for a war mother's group. Before her death
in 1948, Jarvis is said to have confessed that she regretted ever starting
the mother's day tradition.
Despite Jarvis's misgivings,
Mother's Day has flourished in the United States. In fact, the second
Sunday of May has become the most popular day of the year to dine out, and
telephone lines record their highest traffic, as sons and daughters
everywhere take advantage of this day to honor and to express appreciation
of their mothers.
from Biography.com

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Margaret
Ruth Davidson Kimes - Grandma
Katharine
May Vadakin Davidson -
Great-Grandma
Mable Anna
Howell Ash - Grandma
Rebecca
Nelma Maizland Sefton Stark -
Grandma
Eleanor
Emma "Nellie" Barnes Walton -
Little Grandma
Elsie
Lucretia Race Walton - Grandma
Mary Ann
Johnson Barnes - Great Grannie
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To Our Moms
This is for all the mothers who
DIDN'T win Mother of the Year. All the runners-up and all the wannabes.
The mothers too tired to enter or too busy to care.
This is for all the mothers who
froze their buns off on metal bleachers at soccer games Friday night
instead of watching from cars, so that when their kids asked, "Did you see
my goal?" they could say, "Of course, wouldn't have missed it for the
world," and mean it.
This is for all the mothers who
have sat up all night with sick toddlers in their arms, wiping up barf
laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and cherry Kool-Aid saying, "It's OK honey,
Mommy's here."
This is for all the mothers of
Kosovo who fled in the night and can't find their children.
This is for the mothers who
gave birth to babies they'll never see. And the mothers who took those
babies and made them homes.
For all the mothers of the
victims of the Colorado shooting, and the mothers of the murderers. For
the mothers of the survivors, and the mothers who sat in front of their
TVs in horror, hugging their child who just came home from school, safely.
For all the mothers who run
carpools and make cookies and sew Halloween costumes. And all the mothers
who DON'T.
What makes a good mother
anyway? Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a
baby, cook dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time? Or
is it heart? Is it the ache you feel when you watch your son or daughter
disappear down the street, walking to school alone for the very first
time? The jolt that takes you from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2
a.m. to put your hand on the back of a sleeping baby? The need to flee
from wherever you are and hug your child when you hear news of a school
shooting, a fire, a car accident, a baby dying?
I think so. So this is for all
the mothers who sat down with their children and explained all about
making babies. And for all the mothers who wanted to but just couldn't.
This is for reading "Goodnight,
Moon" twice a night for a year. And then reading it again. "Just one more
time."
This is for all the mothers who
mess up. Who yell at their kids in the grocery store and swat them in
despair and stomp their feet like a tired 2 year old who wants ice cream
before dinner.
This is for all the mothers who
taught their daughters to tie their shoelaces before they started school.
And for all the mothers who opted for Velcro instead.
For all the mothers who bite
their lips-sometimes until they bleed-when their 14 year olds dye their
hair green.
Who lock themselves in the
bathroom when babies keep crying and won't stop.
This is for all the mothers who
show up at work with spit-up in their hair and milk stains on their
blouses and diapers in their purse.
This is for all the mothers who
teach their sons to cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot.
This is for all mothers whose
heads turn automatically when a little voice calls "Mom?" in a crowd, even
though they know their own offspring are at home.
This is for mothers who put
pinwheels and teddy bears on their children's graves.
This is for mothers whose
children have gone astray, who can't find the words to reach them.
This is for all the mothers who
sent their sons to school with stomach aches, assuring them they'd be just
FINE once they got there, only to get calls from the school nurse and hour
later asking them to please pick them up. Right away.
This is for young mothers
stumbling through diaper changes and sleep deprivation. And mature mothers
learning to let go.
For working mothers and
stay-at-home mothers. Single mothers and married mothers. Mothers with
money, mothers without.
©1999 Cindy Lange-Kubick
Columnist, Lincoln Journal Star
Lincoln, Nebraska, USA

When God
Made Moms
When
the good Lord was creating mothers!!!!!
He was into His sixth day of "overtime when the angel appeared and said,
"You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one."
AND THE LORD SAID....."Have you read the specs on this order?
She has to be completely washable, but not plastic.
Have 180 moveable parts... all replaceable.
Run on black coffee and leftovers.
Have a lap that disappears when she stands up,
a kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg
to a disappointed love affair, and six pairs of hands."
And the angel shook her head slowly and said,
"Six pairs of hands...no way."
"It is not the hands that are causing me problems," said the Lord,
"It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have."
"That's on the standard model?" asked the angel.
THE LORD NODDED....One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks
"What are you kids doing in there?" when she already knows.
Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't,
but what she has to know;
and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when
he
goofs up and say,
"I understand and I love you", without so much as uttering a word."
"Lord", said the angel touching his sleeve gently, "go to bed,
tomorrow...."
"I can't", said the Lord, "I'm so close to creating something so close to
myself.
Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick....
can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger,
and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower."
The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly.
"It's too soft", she sighed.
"But tough!" said the Lord excitedly.
You cannot imagine what this mother can do or endure."
"Can it think?"
"Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise", said the
Creator.
Finally the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek.
"There's a leak", she pronounced.
"I told you, you were trying to put too much into this model."
"It's not a leak", said the Lord. "It's a tear".
"What's it for?"
"It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness and pride."
"You're a genius", said the angel.
THE LORD LOOKED SOMBER.....
"BUT I DIDN'T PUT IT THERE".
By Erma Bombeck

A Mother's Day Corsage
Red
indicates your mother is alive
White indicates your mother passed away
Yellow indicates you're a Bereaved Mother.

The Symbolism of Flowers
|
Aster |
Daintiness and
Femininity |
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Calendula |
Grief or Jealousy |
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Carnation |
Capriciousness |
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Chrysanthemum |
Optimism and Hope |
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Daffodil |
Best Regards |
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Gladiolus |
Splendidly Beautiful |
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Larkspur |
Ardent Attachment |
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Lily of the Valley |
Humility |
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Narcissus |
Conceit, Self Love |
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Sweet Pea |
Thinking of You |
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Red Roses |
Love and respect |
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Yellow Roses |
Joy and friendship |
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Daisies |
Loyal love |
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Violet |
Faithfulness |
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White Roses |
Innocence, purity and secrecy |
|
Dark Pink Roses |
Thankfulness |
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Pale Pink Roses |
Grace and joy |
|
Pale Peach Roses |
Modesty |
|
Coral Roses |
Desire |
|
Orange Roses |
Fascination |
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Red and White Roses |
Unity |
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Sweetheart Roses |
Beauty and youth |
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Open Rose over two buds |
Secrecy |

The Cost of Kids
The government recently
calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up
$160,140! That doesn't even touch college tuition. For those with kids,
that figure leads to wild fantasies about all the money we could have
banked if not for (insert a child's name here). For others, that number
might confirm the decision to remain childless.
But $160,140 isn't so bad if
you break it down. It translates into $8,896.66 a year, $741.38 a month,
or 171.08 a week. That's a mere $24.44 a day! Just over a dollar an hour.
Still, you might think the best financial advice says don't have children
if you want to be "rich". It is just the opposite.
What do you get for your
$160,140??
Naming rights - first, middle,
and last! Glimpses of God every day. Giggles under the covers every night.
More love than your heart can hold. Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.
Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies. A hand to hold.
A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites, building sandcastles, and
skipping down the sidewalk in the pouring rain. Someone to laugh yourself
silly with no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that
day.
For $160,140, you never have to
grow up. You get to finger-paint, carve pumpkins, play hide-and-seek,
catch lightning bugs, and never stop believing in Santa Claus. You have an
excuse to keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh, watching
Saturday morning cartoons, going to Disney movies and wishing on stars.
You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets
and collect spray painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in
clay for Mother's Day, and cards with backward letters for Father's Day.
For $160,140, there is no
greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for retrieving a
Frisbee off the garage roof, taking the training wheels off the bike,
removing a splinter, filling the wading pool, coaxing a wad of gum out of
bangs, and coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets
treated to ice cream regardless. You get a front row seat to history to
witness the first step, first word, first bra, first date, and first time
behind the wheel. You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to
your family tree, and if you're lucky, a long list of limbs in your
obituary called grandchildren. You get an education in psychology,
nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no
college can match.
In the eyes of a child, you
rank right up there with God. You have all the power to heal a boo-boo,
scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a
slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits, so one
day they will, like you, love without counting the cost.
Author Unknown

A Grandmother's Creed
As I hold
you in my arms for the first time, I look down at your innocent face and
tell you I am your Nanny and I tell you what good friends we'll become. I
promise you that my heart will always be a safe haven where my love for
you will know no obstacles. My heart will always be your home.
You are my
second chance, sweet innocent babe. My second chance to take the time to
bake cookies and watch the sparkling anticipation in a child's eyes. My
second chance to sit and rock a baby to sleep, experiencing the wonder of
a tiny heart beating next to mine as you rest upon my chest. A second
chance to experience the wonder of a child discovering he can walk and
blow dandelions into the sky. A second chance to view the world through
the innocence of a child's heart. And this time, there will be no rushing
to keep schedules and clean the house. You have the advantage of my years
and having gained the wisdom of knowing what's really important in life.
You have the advantage that I now know my place in the world, and that a
few cobwebs don't really matter. As the poem goes, you have the advantage
that I now know that babies don't keep.
I promise
to be a child with you when you need me to be and a source of strength
when that's what you need from me. I promise that you will probably hear
more yeses from me and fewer no's, but that I will always honor and
respect the place of the mother and father into whose care God has placed
you. I will never try to outshine them or diminish their role in your
life, for as much as I love you, they love you even more!
We'll grow
old together...I'll just get there a little sooner. And, someday when I'm
gone you'll look back upon all the time we shared and you'll smile. The
word "grandmother" will always hold a special place in your heart, just as
you have always held one in mine.
(c) 1998 Shirley Jones - All
Rights Reserved

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